We (women) tend to focus so much on our weaknesses and often blow them out of proportion. But our strengths, the things we are good at, go unnoticed, especially by ourselves. I know there are times when I have feared that my confidence may come across as arrogance. It's taboo to assert your successes as a parent! And even in general, I think women are very careful about how much credit or attention they give to themselves. But we all certainly deserve praise and recognition. And so, right on the heels of Mother's Day, this "Woman to Woman" is an opportunity for us all to admit that we are amazing, and to share our strengths with one another.
This is a tough topic to think about. It is so easy to pop out reasons as to why I am flawed, what makes me imperfect. I feel like a dumpy mom who people look at and wrinkle their noses - the one that other woman look at and say "well, at least [my garden/my house/ my parenting/ my ______] is not as bad as her".
Then I remember something: As women, we have the dangerous tendency to compare ourselves to others. If we were to do so with an unbiased view, it might not be so disastrous. However, we are biased - against ourselves! We look at others with a halo-light, seeing all the wonderful things about them, then look at ourselves - focusing on our faults. Then we base our comparison off of "so-and-so's" stregnths, and our weaknesses! How self-destructive is that!
Alright, now back on topic.
Top Ten List of "Why I love ME":
1. When it comes to crafty things, I can do just about anything I set my mind to try. Not perfectly, but pretty darn well. And I use that ability to make my house into a home.
2. I am really good with child development. I aced the class in college, and use the knowledge a lot. I love knowing the stages my kids are in, and how I can help them to grow and work into the next stage.
3. I am safety conscientious about everything - from car seats to developmentally appropriate playgrounds to teaching my kids about safety. And I can make it fun and understandable, but not scary.
4. I have a very active imagination, and remember the "that would be so cool" stuff from when I was a kid, and do it for my kids. Like designing a regular closet to be a little playhouse. Or making the space under DS's loft bed into a secret hideaway with books and snuggly seats.
5. I have a good smile. I can smile at Princess with compassion, and her tears will disapear, and she will smile back.
6. I stand at the gas station and act silly and make faces as I'm pumping gas. And I don't care what anyone outside my own car thinks. I do it to make my kids smile and giggle.
7. I love animals, and through our pets, or injured wildlife we find, teach my children that they can love, nurture, and protect, and have great compassion.
8. I have a love for books and reading, and my example of curling up on the couch or my bed gives my children the idea "reading looks fun!"
I'm starting to draw a blank, I'll come finish this in a bit.
9. I can look at situations from another perspective, which helps me understand other people and their needs or concerns and their personal reality. This includes my children - I don't dismiss their fears, instead we find ways to help them - because for them, they are a reality.
10. I am compassionate. I don't like to see pain in someone else's eyes, and will do anything I can to help them. Even if it means staying up all night to rock a teething toddler.