I worry sometimes as a young mom, that I am too immature for my role as a SAHM. I have friends who own a home, paint their walls awsome colors, decorate with sophistication, use their spell check button. Often, the moms in my stage of life are older than I am ... and seem so much more mature. I even have a friend who is younger than I am, but seems just so much more "grown up" than I am.
So, I've felt insecure about my maturity for a while. That is until last night. Every couple of weeks, my 21 year old brother comes for Sunday dinner - with a couple roomates tagging along for a home cooked meal. They live in a run-down bachelor-pad for the local college, and none of them really cook. So he brought a "newbie" over last night ... a roomie we hadn't met before. This roomie was definately one of my brother's friends, kinda nice in a dorky, geeky little brother way. But a little less rowdy and annoying than some of the roomies we've fed.
So we are all talking, and this kid asks how old I am. I told him I was 26. Uh, so was he. Turns out, he's 10 days older than me. :) AND WAY LESS MATURE :) He kept telling me how weird it was that we were the same age, but in such different stages. He was jealous of my "settled" lifestyle, and having a family, and the american life - complete with a cat and dog. His stage? Go to school, come home and play computer games, have some NCMO experiences (for those, like me, who missed that part of college:
Non-Commital Make-Out), and then wonder when "real life" will start.
It's interesting how his perspective made me realise that I'm more mature than I give myself credit for most the time! I don't feel like "a grown-up", but I feel so happy with my life - my DH, who is a really good guy, our beautiful children, a wonderful neighborhood, and the fact that I am able to be a SAHM. I love my motherhood, and today, I actually feel mature enough to be "the mom".
Yes, I still say dumb things without thinking, stink at budgeting, feel trapped in my house at times, and HATE laundry, and most housework. But at least I'm not the least mature 26 year old out there :) Yep, there is balance in the universe again.